How choosing yourself & walking away restores inner balance

We all have a balance of divine feminine and masculine within us. We are born as souls—our souls are genderless—we are born in a male or female body, but the duality must be balanced within us, which is why I am so drawn to men who openly embrace their divine feminine. I used to buy flowers for my husband. I was the one who grilled. But he was the one who fixed cars. I was the one who cooked dinner. These are just tasks we all should learn how to do—not gender roles, which is an absurd concept.

When we restore balance within ourselves, we restore it in society. But this means genuine reverence and respect. This means having the courage to choose. This means self-discipline and controlling one’s desires as it pertains to the other gender. This also means self-sufficiency.

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Why we have a predator and a pedo problem—and what to do about it

One person responded to my comment pondering if women are considered “ugly” when they get older or if it’s just the current climate. My take based on observation is this—emotionally immature (read: narcissistic) people (most commonly men) prefer girls and younger women because they’re easier to control and have yet to learn to set boundaries.

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What decentralizing men feels like (and how I did it)

I had to burn down a bajillion times. The patriarchy only has to burn once. But one day, we will all be free of this conditioned nonsense. But that starts with going inward and decentralizing the external. When I walked away from one of the best things that’s ever happened to me, I saved myself, and I took back my power, and guys…I rather like it. I think I’m going to keep it.

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And I hope you make me dance

And that’s true. No matter what happens, when you left, you were my husband. I became a widow. Not a divorcee, not a single woman. A widow, and like you said, and as I’m sure you’d expect, not a conventional widow. Like you said in your letter…a Ms. Scarlett, the widow who wears black and dances with a blockade runner at the charity auction, the kind of woman who digs in the dirt to plant seeds so she can rise again, the consummate survivor.

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