I’m calling it energetic celibacy, which is where I fully protect my energy by only giving it to energetic soul connections that are fully respectful of it. The reality is that I am open to a partner again, but clearly that’s not happening on this timeline. I know this is a season for fully choosing myself, writing, and focusing on my kids. I know that by keeping my head down and concentrating exclusively on that, I’ll be able to keep raising my frequency and will one day meet or reconnect with someone (anyone but ugh obviously) who is really willing to invest in me as much as I am with him.
Read more“Weird” things I do that work for me & where I am in life now
So, that’s where I am. That’s who I am. I’m just a person who is always trying to do better and to level up in the game of life. I assume, perhaps mistakenly, that other people are trying to do the same. And otherwise I’m just meeting people where they are and wishing the best for them.
Read moreWhat decentralizing men feels like (and how I did it)
I had to burn down a bajillion times. The patriarchy only has to burn once. But one day, we will all be free of this conditioned nonsense. But that starts with going inward and decentralizing the external. When I walked away from one of the best things that’s ever happened to me, I saved myself, and I took back my power, and guys…I rather like it. I think I’m going to keep it.
Read moreAnd I hope you make me dance
And that’s true. No matter what happens, when you left, you were my husband. I became a widow. Not a divorcee, not a single woman. A widow, and like you said, and as I’m sure you’d expect, not a conventional widow. Like you said in your letter…a Ms. Scarlett, the widow who wears black and dances with a blockade runner at the charity auction, the kind of woman who digs in the dirt to plant seeds so she can rise again, the consummate survivor.
Read moreDo you even know what you want?
In a world where normal is determined by what the majority is doing, it can be really difficult to discern what you want authentically for yourself.
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